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I am a recently divorced single mom and a full time student. I am really starting to have financial problems and decided to start working as an escort. I’m at a point of great emotional stability, happiness, and confidence – all of the reasons that led to my decision – and I’m surrounded by people who love me and won’t judge me. (I won’t tell most of them.) I saw a man I like, but I made it clear that I didn’t commit to him and could only see him. once a week. I explained that I don’t think I can ever be monogamous and that I don’t want a relationship. He struggled with that and told me early on that he was in love with me. We’re having AMAZING sex, and I think it makes her have a hard time understanding why I don’t want a relationship. I don’t want to tell her I’m escorting. I feel that the fewer people who know, the better. And I don’t know him very well, because I’ve only “seen” him for six months. I know he wants to know, and a big part of me thinks the right thing to do is be honest with him if I keep seeing him. I also know that letting go would hurt and disturb him, especially without being able to give him a reason. How can I handle this? What’s the right thing to do? My site is up in three days, and what keeps me awake at night is not the best way to verify clients is what to do about the man in my house. life that I respect and love, even if I’m not in love with him.

—New to the escort

Let us leave aside the question of the escort for a moment. You don’t want the same things (he wants monogamy and a defined relationship, you don’t want any of that shit), you don’t feel for him what he feels for you (he’s in love, you’re not) , and you’re a busy single mom and a full-time college student – all perfectly valid reasons for ending a relationship, NTE. You don’t have to tell him that something you thought you were doing but haven’t done yet, i.e. escorting, was factored into your decision to let go.

Although I definitely believe that people have a right to know if their partners are escorts, I don’t think people have an absolute right to know if their partners were escorts. So if the sex is really good, and you think there is a chance that you will one day feel as strong for him as he does for you, and you plan to escort only until you graduate, NTE, you could tell her you want to take a break. Explain to him that you don’t have the bandwidth for a boyfriend right now – kid, school, work – but that you’re ready to date him after school leaves if he’s still single. and still interested.

I am a 30 year old single monogamous and recently realized that I am bisexual. I feel much happier. Except that I recently crossed a line with a very close friend of mine, a man I admit to having romantic feelings for. After he broke up with his ex, I started getting random late night texts from him. And a few weeks ago, we connected without penetration. We have recognized that we both have feelings, but neither of us is well placed. He’s still struggling with the end of his LTR, and I just came out as bisexual. I love this person and our friendship is important to me, but I can’t help but think about the possibility that we are together. I am confused by the timing and wonder if this is real or just something that I let me distract me – or both! Also, what would that mean for my bisexuality? I’ve been to this rodeo before – that is, the opposite sex relationship – but what about the part of me that I haven’t fully explored?

—Between each thorn, loneliness sucks

You describe yourself as a monogamous – so, yes, entering into a committed relationship with this man would prevent you from exploring your bisexuality. And the timing is wrong: it might be about to bounce back, and you are still coming to terms with your bisexuality. So don’t get into a committed relationship with him, BETSY, at least not yet. Casually date him and continue to connect with him, with the understanding – with the explicit and fully verbalized and mutually agreed upon understanding – that you will “explore” your bisexuality, that is, you will go out and eat food. pussy.

I am a 37 year old woman married for eight years to a wonderful man. We are happy and GGG to the point where its kinks have become my kinks and vice versa. However, he enjoys anal sex and I can’t do it. No matter how much lubricant we use or how slowly we go, it’s not only uncomfortable, it’s very painful in poker. Can you give me some concrete and practical advice to get to a point where I can enjoy anal?

—Beyond the uncomfortable Tushy trauma

PS Do some women really like sodomy? After my experiences, I find this really hard to believe.

If you’re still interested in exploring anal after all that burning poker in your ass painful experiences – and you don’t have to explore any further – focus on anal stimulation, BUTT, not anal penetration. Try rimming, try a vibrator pressed against your anus (not pushed into it), try running his lubricated cock up and down your crack (through your anus, not into your anus), and try all of these things for a while. masturbation, vaginal penetration and oral sex. Having a few dozen orgasms – or a few hundred – while the sensitive nerve endings in your anus are pleasantly engaged could create a positive association between anal stimulation and sexual pleasure.

It will take some time to create a positive association strong enough to override the negative association you now have – an association with regicide echoes (google “Edward II and red hot poker”) – so your husband shouldn’t be. ‘expect to get his cock in your butt anytime soon, if he ever will. Some people, for physiological or psychological reasons or both, simply cannot experience pleasure during anal sex. If you are one of those people, BUTT, your husband will just have to grieve and move on.

PS I find it hard to believe that a woman can take advantage of, say, a Donald Trump rally. But some women do, BUTT, and we’ve got a video to prove it. The same could be said of anal.

I am a 30 year old straight woman. Do you have any ideas on how a person can reconnect with healthy intimate relationships while recovering from trauma? I am scared in normal sexual situations. How do I get to a point where I can have sex for fun and not in a way where I trigger my fight or flight response? Yes, I am seeing a therapist.

—Traumatic experience canceling out sexual energy

Here’s an idea, TENSE, but please run it by your therapist before you try it: find a guy you like and come up with a different kind of friend arrangement with benefits. You will be responsible – you will do all the initiation – and although he may say no to anything you ask, he must not ask or initiate anything himself. You set the menu, you set the rules, you give the orders. He’ll have to be someone you trust, and it’ll help if he thinks taking orders is sexy – and trust me, TENSE, those guys are out there. You said normal sexual situations don’t work for you. Maybe an abnormal would?

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